I knew I needed a break. And a good place to take one was at Harvey’s house, four hours distant, in the small isolated town of Enterprise. I consider Harvey the hero of my book Rabbit Lane: Memoir of a Country Road. Actually, my seven children are the principal heroes and heroines. But Harvey is the non-family member that joins them on the podium. During his long and colorful life, Harvey was a tanner of hides, a seeker of nature’s healing ways, a modern mountain man living in remote hills and attending rendezvous, and a friend to American Indians, earning from them the name Many Feathers. Harvey invited me one day to an Indian sweat ceremony, where I languished for three painful hours while also reveling in Indian song and story. And at the end I smoked the peace pipe handed me by a Navajo Sun Chief, to offer my sacrificial prayer of smoke from burning sage. Harvey is 84 now, and I wanted to see him. So, I waved farewell to Mom and Dad and made the voyage. Skinny and bent, Harvey puttered with me around his house and yard, feeding his prize pigeons and meat rabbits, frying up potatoes and sausages in his black iron skillet, and telling stories about the old days. After a long day, I slept in the bunk house he built, warmed by the flame in the pot-belly stove. Before I knew it, I was waving good-bye to Harvey and Mary and driving the long miles home to Mom and Dad, but feeling renewed from my time with my friend.
We drove around the block to the church at 5:30 p.m. for the annual pot luck Chili Chocolate party. I had assumed we would not go, what with the difficulty of walking, etc. But Dad had announced the day before that he was making a crock pot full of chili, and reminded us the party started at 5:30. I placed the chili crock pot and the chocolate pudding cake in the back of the faithful Suburban and drove the short distance. The church cultural hall was already crowded with smiling costumed families. Several long tables boasted two dozen pots of all variety of chilis and chowders, with another table for corn breads and several more for chocolate desserts. I met a few more neighbors, including Kolani, Joshua, Lacey, Heidi, and Zane. I fit six sampler cups on my plate and filled them with six soups. My favorite was the creamy salmon chowder with potatoes and corn. A neighbor did what Dad did not want me to do: she brought him a plate with filled sampler cups. When I thanked her, she quipped with a grin, “I just decided to barge in and bring him a plate.” Carolyn, sitting next to us, asked me to dish up a cup of Dad’s chili for her. I found the crock pot empty and announced that Dad’s chili apparently was very popular—it was all gone. Dad was obviously pleased, both that he had brought the chili and that people liked it. As usual, I ate a bit too much and felt very full. And I was powerless at the chocolate table, although I only nibbled at the six desserts I crammed onto my plate. As I retrieved our empty crock pot, Rick asked me if I had brought the chili in our crock pot. “Nelson did,” I answered. “It was my favorite chili of all,” he enthused, “just like my mom used to make.” I reported that to Dad, too. Mom said gratefully, “Thanks, Nelson, for making the chili and taking us there tonight. I enjoyed myself!”
Mom’s and Dad’s neighbor stopped by Sunday afternoon with an invitation to a block party at his house later in the week. Hamburgers and hot dogs plus pot luck salads and desserts. I decided to go—he is my neighbor now, too. Mom and Dad decided it would be too difficult for them to go, so I walked over alone. They thought it would be bad form for me to bring them food from a party they did not attend or contribute to. I understood, but explained that if Darrell offered, I would accept. I received a warm welcome, which was nice since I felt a bit awkward as an older single man in a crowd of contended couples. I met several families: Valentine, Liu, Antonelli, Back, Lundgren, Jarvis, Breen, Callister, Taylor. Nice people all. I fought off creeping distress after learning four names, fearing I would forget them all upon hearing a fifth. Many of them inquired after Mom’s and Dad’s welfare. Fixings for the hamburgers included crisp bacon, grilled onions, and over-medium eggs, and I confess to enjoying my burger very much. The donuts I brought were popular, disappearing as fast as the burgers. Mary Ann asked if I would like to take some food home for Mom and Dad. “Well,” I responded, “I have been instructed neither to request nor refuse.” “Well, then, load up a plate!” she ordered. Dad relished his “most excellent” hamburger, and Mom her blackened all-beef franks.
My children pooled their resources and purchased an Aero Garden for my Father’s Day gift. Nine little cones, each with their own seeds, sat immersed in water. Upon every garden planting, I struggle to believe the seeds will sprout, but they always do. Months later I have a jungle of basil and dill and parsley. The basil plants needed pruning badly, so I cut them back and dropped the three-inch leaves into a blender with garlic, parmesan cheese, pine nuts, and olive oil: pesto! This was to top the focaccia dough proofing in the oven, warmed slightly by the oven bulb. Mom and Dad and I savored munching on the aromatic, flavorful flatbread. I drove some focaccia squares over to some Brazilian bread aficionado friends, and we enjoyed a taste of pesto over conversation. Ciabatta, sourdoughs from wild yeast starter, Scottish Struan, cheese bread with Guinness, and Challah—they are all fun to make and more fun to devour. And who doesn’t enjoy the therapy of kneading out one’s frustrations while stretching those gluten fibers?
A lion sits on my bed, a little lion, named Little Growler. He clambers onto my pillow each morning after I make the bed. Hello Little Growler, I say. He guards the small house all day. And he shuffles off to his secondary perch when I draw back the blankets at night. He does not demand anything of me. He does not growl or bark or mewl or drool. He does not whine or glare or fume. Little Growler came to stay when I moved away. She brought him with her one day and introduced us. She knew I was alone now. She was 9.
When she turned 10, Olaf skated home with us from Disney on Ice. He joins Little Growler with a grin that refuses to dim. Pooh Bear with his round rumbly tumbly completes the trio, wandering in from California when the girl was not quite 2 and we met a giant Pooh and a giant Tigger and they happily squeezed in with us in a photo of the family: together.
I wave to the threesome at night – company in the dark is comforting – and manage to smile and say Good night little friends and remember Hannah at 9 and 10 and 2 and know we have had some happy times and I am not irreparable and I am very much alive and moving into something mysterious and beautiful and that Little Growler will be perched on my pillow when I come home at night.
My son Hyrum and I recently visited with one of my life’s heroes, Harvey Russell. Harvey has been a mink rancher, tanner, mountain man, handyman, and friend to American Indians. He helped me build my chicken coop and brought me to a four-hour sweat ceremony led by Sun-Chiefs. His Indian name is Many Feathers. Arriving at Harvey’s place, Hyrum and set to work helping Harvey with his chores and projects, during which he told stories of the “old days” and we laughed and enjoyed just being together. The happy juxtaposition of these two men, one 16 and the other 81, struck me. They got along marvelously together, each respecting and enjoying the other. Kindred spirits, perhaps. Those ruminations led to this little poem.
the other 81
one coming up
the other moving on
little alike, perhaps,
to fashion with sinewy fingers
to be busy in doing
to stand back, dusty and bruised,
admiring their handiwork:
sitting, grinning, laughing
each helping the other up and on
Here are more pictures of our visit.
Roger is the author of Rabbit Lane: Memoir of a Country Road. The book tells the true life story of an obscure farm road and its power to transform the human spirit. The book is available in print and for Kindle at Amazon. See Rabbit Lane reviewed in Words and Pictures.
–To change the world, we must first change ourselves.–
Harvey had to leave. He lost everything he owned. He moved out to the West Desert to live with a mountain man friend who lives in a teepee. He said he would do fine, but worried about staying warm enough and getting enough to eat in the freezing winters. I worried for him, too. I did what I could to help Harvey, examining legal documents, but it was too late. Continue reading