Over the course of three days, three of the chandelier’s 16 candle-flame bulbs burned out. I suspected Mom would notice the blackened bulbs immediately, and my suspicion was confirmed by the immediate appearance of a package of new bulbs on the countertop wanting me immediately to install them. At a height of 12 feet, replacing bad bulbs required a tall step ladder, hanging in the garage, carried with care for the cars and wall corners. Not my favorite job. But I would get to it—when I felt like it. My son John brought his little family over the next day for an Easter egg hunt. Three-year-old Henry helped his dad hide the eggs, then raced to find them all, then begged to hide them again, to which, of course, we acceded. When John walked in the front door, laden with children and plastic eggs, Mom immediately called out to him with a guilty giggle, “John!! Do you feel like climbing a ladder?” I all but shouted at her that I will get to it, Mom, when I’m ready! You don’t need to ask anyone else! Two days later, my brother was visiting from North Carolina. Before Mom could ask him to change out the bulbs, I grabbed the ladder, dragged it without a ding down the hallway, and climbed with an armful of fresh bulbs. The chandelier’s heat on my too-near head surprised me. I replaced the bulbs, then replaced the ladder, then went to my room to change from my jacket and tie. I heard Steven cheerfully ask Mom, as he approached from his own room, “Should I change the bulbs now, Mom?” Having desired an immediately replacement of the blackened bulbs, she had had to wait days for her slow firstborn son, who confessedly moved slower for her hurry. With new bulbs, the house has settled back into its calm fully-lit brilliance.
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Courage at Twilight: Stacks at the Top of the Stairs
The stairs to the basement have become more and more difficult for Mom and Dad to go up and down the stairs to the basement. Each step is a labor, descending a focused effort not to slip or fall, and ascending a herculean effort to climb. Their trips to the basement to retrieve canned goods or to put their DVDs back on the bookshelves have dwindled to a minimum. Mom piles clean folded sheets and cans of fruit and NCIS DVDs and rolls of toilet paper on the top stair, allowing sufficient accumulation to warrant the long trip to the cool dark basement. I see these stacks as my cue to take the trip myself, putting things in their places. The routine has become a game Mom and I play, with her piling the items neatly on the stair, and me running them downstairs to their nooks and shelves and cupboards. I don’t mind—I like putting things away neatly in their places. And we do not even need to coordinate—the task is simple and understood by us both, with not another word said. Speaking of which, it is time for the next season of NCIS.

